Like many of us, I spent decades trying to fix what felt like my fundamental flaws. While I often appeared to function well, I struggled with food issues, anxiety, sensitivity to criticism, perfectionism, relationship issues and a deep lack of self worth.
From my late twenties onwards, I explored psychotherapy, meditation, complementary medicine and a variety of spiritual teachings. I learnt many valuable things, but didn’t reach the sense of feeling whole or contented that I longed for.
By my mid-forties, I was the co-founder of an award-winning health project, I’d created a beautiful home, had a family, and yet…something still didn’t feel quite right. When I lost my much-loved job in early 2007, my life and I fell spectacularly apart.
For several years, I experienced a dark night of the soul. Everything I had been trying to fix or escape came to the surface. Terror, panic, grief, shame, anguish, humiliation, yearning, shock, neediness, trauma; the floodgates opened and I began to truly face the legacy of my troubled childhood. It was a very intense time and I couldn’t work for several years.
When I first experienced Scott’s Unfindable Inquiry in 2011, it was a revelation. This was the key that I’d been looking for. I continue to inquire, both on my own and with other facilitators. The sense of being fundamentally flawed or damaged is gone. I’m no longer plagued by anxiety. The critical inner voice that used to drive the perfectionism has very little to say these days. Life feels much simpler, saner and more normal.
Since 2012, I’ve been at the heart of the Living Inquiries community as a Senior Facilitator and Trainer. I am the editor of Scott’s books The Unfindable Inquiry: One Simple Tool to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness and Find Inner Peace and Living Realization: A Simple, Plain-English Guide to Non-Duality. My first book on the Living Inquiries – The Art of Finding Yourself: Live Bravely and Awaken to Your True Nature is published by New Harbinger/Nonduality Press on 1st December 2016.
I work with men and women from around the world and have facilitated thousands of sessions. I accompany my clients gently and unflinchingly as they journey into the depths of their experience. Whatever arises – pain, tears, laughter, anger, numbness, resistance, surrender, defensiveness, shame, realisations, insights, or blocks – I’m fully present, holding my clients wherever the process flows. I always allow ninety minutes per session, so there is plenty of time and space to rest and talk both before and after inquiring.
I work with clients on a wide variety of issues, so whatever challenges you face, it’s likely that we can inquire into them together. As one of the first group of facilitators that Scott trained, and as co-creator of the Anxiety Inquiry, I am a very experienced and skilled facilitator.
If my words resonate with you and you’d like to know more, or you’d like to book a session, you are very welcome to get in touch.