Welcome to the Living Inquiries. We are glad you’ve found your way to us. As an intimate and fully embodied exploration of both our felt experience and our beliefs, the Inquiries invite us to discover what has previously remained hidden or unconscious, allowing an unraveling of thoughts and feelings which can bring a new-found sense of freedom. Whatever your life circumstances and whatever challenges you face, here are the broad brushstrokes of our invitation to you.
The Living Inquiries are transformational. Move beyond endlessly trying to fix yourself. Learn a simple process that unravels the belief systems and conditioning that seem to define you. Find out who you are by discovering what you’re not. Find your innate capacity to be okay (even when you don’t feel okay).
Honor and embrace your experience. Listen deeply to your mind and body, and become gently and honestly present. Integrate your abandoned, neglected or rejected parts as you gradually learn to love yourself. Tenderly hold your wounds and negative self-beliefs, beyond judgement and shame. Discover the natural spaciousness in which resistance and effort relax. Experience the relief of ending the war against yourself.
The invitation is to connect deeply. Connect with the deep wisdom of your body and strengthen your capacity to trust its guidance. Connect with your heart and reveal your authentic self. Connect with others in this open-hearted and inclusive community.
The invitation is to simply be. Discover the gift of resting with whatever is here, just as it is. Discover a deep trust in life, however it is unfolding. Experience the sheer aliveness of being here, just as you are, unencumbered by the past or future. Discover liberation.
If our invitation resonates with you, take your time to explore these pages further. You’ll find more on the what and how of the Inquiries here, and details on who we are here. You can read, watch and listen here. You’re also very welcome to contact us.
“I’ve done dozens of therapies but this is different – it’s a peeling away of a painful way of being in the world.” G.K.
“The Living Inquiries enable us to chip away the false, hardened places that conceal the evidence of our bare and fundamental nature.” H.M.P.
A Radical Approach To Recovery From Addiction
An Online Discussion held on Saturday July 8th, 2017
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“Freedom from addiction is already contained in the one place an addict refuses to look – the present moment.” Scott Kiloby
This Round Table discussion on our approach to addiction featured Scott Kiloby, author of Natural Rest for Addiction and Director of the Kiloby Center for Recovery, along with several experienced Living Inquiries facilitators.
Panellists shared their personal experiences of using Natural Rest and the Living Inquiries to unravel the grip of compulsion. What exactly is addiction? How do anxiety and low self-esteem result in us reaching for ways to self medicate, including drink, drugs, foods, love and sex, binge shopping, gaming or even workaholism? We talked about the roots of addictive behavior as well as the many ways that it manifests. Can using Natural Rest and the Living Inquiries really make a difference?
Who are we, and what is our personal experience of addiction? Read more here.
To watch videos of this event click here.
In Natural Rest for Addiction: A Radical Approach to Recovery Through Mindfulness and Awareness, Scott presents his innovative approach to addictions and compulsions of all kinds. He describes how using Natural Rest and the Living Inquiries has enabled him to not only fully heal himself after over twenty years of addiction but also to offer this groundbreaking work to many others at the Kiloby Center for Recovery.
“Scott Kiloby brings his refined practice of present-moment awareness to the healing of addiction and other compulsions, teaching a gentle but deep self-inquiry whose ultimate goal is liberation.” Gabor Maté MD
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Lisa Meuser explores endings, death and loss “I know deep inside that, when my heart is breaking, it’s getting wider, deeper, larger—growing”. Lynn Fraser reflects on female power and shares a Living Inquiries guided practice from her daily group meditation. Paul Galewitz shares his realisation that we are not our stories, or the characters that act them out, we are something far grander. And here’s a republication of Scott Kiloby’s essential post on the layers or tiers of contraction, deficiency stories and addictive seeking/reaching out of ourselves activities, we encounter as we look within, and how to work skillfully with them. Read more…
Our facilitators come from varied backgrounds and locations; from Hawaii and across the US and Canada to the UK and Europe. Read about their individual journeys, how the Living Inquiries have impacted their lives, and how they might be able to help you – read more…
There are many ways to inquire and we offer a variety of events. Join one of our weekly online Group Inquiry sessions or a Support Group, become a member of a Natural Rest group, or sign up for one of our Deepening Courses to dive right into inquiry – read more.
Watch Scott Kiloby talking about the Inquiries and the thinking that lies behind them. See self-facilitations on a number of topics, including the fear of driving, feeling lonely, and the need to get somewhere. Listen to recorded sessions about being perfect, body image issues and discovering what’s ‘real’. Read articles about the Living Inquiries that have been featured in Elephant Journal – read more…
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The Living Inquiries have been developed by Scott Kiloby, Colette Kelso, Fiona Robertson, Julianne Eanniello, and the other Senior Facilitators.
All photographs by members of the Living Inquiries community.
Watercolours by Helena Weaver.